Enjoyed a succinct summary of Flying Solo by Fern C. It’s a great reminder that even when solo we are not alone. It’s always about the relationships with our client – how great can we encourage them to be, as well as removing their pain.
Fabulous phrase from Paul Hawken – “carbon is the element that holds hands and collaborates”. Listen to Hawken as he launches the new playbook, Drawdown. Drawdown shows us, in a very visual and practical way, the actions we can each take to reduce future climate warming. It also “does the math” and shows what we should be supporting in our communities and countries, in order to ensure a future for our youth on this planet.
If I understand the research study correctly, those who express negativity such as: “disappointment, withdrawal, hostility, or contempt” (Alony, Hasan & Sense, 2015) are more likely to leave both a marriage and a workplace. In contrast, those of us who learn the following coping mechanisms are more likely to stay (in both a marriage and a workplace):
– Balancing the good with the bad (e.g. with at least a 2:1 ratio of two positive comments for every negative, aiming towards a thriving relationship ratio of 5:1)
– Genuinely accepting that bad things (e.g. annoying people and systems and rules) are just part of work life
– Avoiding lengthy discussions of the negatives (e.g. learning to shift conversations to focus on how they coped or what they learned so that we/they can do better or differently next time)
– Expressing hope (e.g. that you can directly influence and/or you can cope with whatever happens to you).
And the best way to increase the positives, is to thank others for their contribution, rather than just assuming “that’s what they are paid to do”.
A great article by Isaac Asimov on what’s needed for group creativity. In essence – a small group of people with expertise, who are willing to appear foolish by contemplating new and possibly unworkable combinations of ideas, in pursuit of a new and workable solution.
“Perfectionism is really dangerous because if your fidelity to perfection is too high you never do anything because doing anything results in a … tragedy …because you sacrifice how gorgeous and perfect it is in your head for what it really is”.
David Foster Wallace
Lots of really interesting short videos at PBS Digital, especially if you are looking to distract yourself from writing anything that is less than perfect ha ha!
Watch the rest of the PBS Digital video here and then check out Philip Seymour Hoffman on happiness vs pleasure if you are a serious procrastinator.
As I look through my Kindle account, I can count over 20 books on productivity. Admittedly it is a large part of our eOrganising business, but really there is no silver bullet. As James Clear reminds me with a thwack on the back of the head – “without the fundamentals, the details are useless”.
I am exploring the current state of play of performance management “systems” with a great group of people, courtesy of Marie O’Brien and her Collaborative Learning Community.
In the meantime, I really like the Solution focused (or progress focused) approach and am keen to read Paul Z Jackson and Janine Waldman’s new book Positively Speaking. Even if we cannot change the system all at once we can start the shift through changing the conversation from judgment to recognition of potential strengths and support for progress.
Thanks to Christine Carlton for her thought-provoking final session for the Sydney Facilitators Network. I especially liked the reflection activity asking us to think of the gifts that 2012 had brought to us – even the ones that had been tightly wrapped with a knot and thus took a little time to open and appreciate. Great framing.
I have received many gifts this year, including a stronger connection with the facilitators network, which I will enjoy contributing to next year. My growing list of gifts includes: fascinating clients, collaborative peers, challenging work, fun and laughter and time for coffee and a swim down the beach (to name just a few).
A great riff on the gratitude list – I think I will start to keep a gift list for each month.